April 23, 2015
Running hurts me. And I don’t just mean that my muscles get sore and I get all out of breath – that’s all true. But it’s more than that for me. It FEELS exceptionally painful for me. I feel like I am going to collapse in a heap of failure halfway up even a baby hill. Don’t get me wrong, I love to run. Like – I really love to run. Ever since I was 12 years old living in a tiny town in British Columbia, running made me feel I could escape the terrible fear and chaos I lived in – and for those moments that I was racing through the streets or the park, it was a real escape. And not just as a distraction or a quick hit of endorphins. There is something about racing with the wind, feeling your feet hitting the ground, pushing yourself that makes you – real. It strips away all of the titles, personas and masks that make up most of what we present to the world. Even if the effects are temporary.
I no longer run to feel “real” or “free” – as God has produced those things for me without any involvement of my sneakers! But I still love to race the wind and just be with me – Layla, the last person I ever thought I could be alone with.
The only down side to my taking up running again is all of the “advice” I seem to get from people lately. And it usually comes from people who….(ready!!)…..don’t run!! Or who have a cigarette dangling from their lips telling me how to run, people who haven’t lifted a finger working out in years giving me strict guidelines on what I should and shouldn’t be doing..lol!
I’ll tell you something, all of the well intentioned rambling advice doesn’t compare with one word of real experience that someone shares with me.
Case in point, I was at an all time low the other day huffing and puffing my way into the end of a run, all of the voices in my head agreeing with my muscles – cheering me to stop and double over at a nearby bench. All of the “good advice” and one liner opinions of others didn’t even make it into the horizon of my mind.
But then I saw another runner coming towards me – she’s seen me before in the neighborhood, painfully building up my endurance over the last 4 months, she saw my run turn into a trot on its way to fizzling right out, and as she passed me, she made a u-turn and started running with me saying “Keep Going Mamma”.
3 words. That was it. That and the u-turn. I not only picked up my speed and continued to run with her, I immediately stopped listening to the voices in my mind tearing me down. It was just 3 words, but coming from someone who was IN IT WITH ME made all of the difference in the world!
So how does this relate to the spiritual path we’re walking on friends? I think it relates big time. I can’t tell you how many “well meaning” people are constantly spouting off advice, opinions and lectures, based on something they read, or a treatment center title they’ve received. And it has no real impact on anyone.
If you really want to have an impact, and be genuinely helpful, you first need to be doing what you are advising. Did you hear that?
You need to practice what you preach. You need to be in it. Not waiting on the sidelines ready to give advice. You need to get in the race yourself and be willing to make a u-turn for someone.
“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
This is awesome..brilliant in fact! Thank you.
I’m inspired to “get in” the race with those I’m helping. I’m also inspired to dig out my runners!
On a daily basis I am inundated with health tips from people who never “practice what they preach”. Reading this post is both inspiring and challenging. Thank you.
Thanks for this. More food for thought. More encouragement mixed in with a challenge to be better servants.
Big sigh…this is rampant in my neck of the woods, I am surrounded by women with grave eating disorders, scores of secrets, who are constantly trying to outdo each other and THEY are the ones leading and helping vulnerable women. This just isn’t right. I want to print and mail this to every one of them.
This really stands out for me!!! “If you really want to have an impact, and be genuinely helpful, you first need to be doing what you are advising. Did you hear that?”
lol….if you mail this to them they may block you from Facebook – are you ready for this? 🙂
I totally hear what you’re saying. I’m not even talking about the general population of “recovery” or any spiritual movement which is chock-full of sick women running around acting like they are in a position to help anyone. I’m talking here about women who actually put on the air of being Christian, “delivered”, leading Bible studies, sponsoring scores of women….who are secretly bulimic, inappropriate with men, catty and full of shit – and try to school me and my friends when challenged….LOL!!
They secretly know who they are though – and I sincerely hope and pray they get real…but I don’t touch them with a 10 foot pole. It’s not just that they are “acting” out, or “struggling” or making mistakes – they are not even in recovery yet. They haven’t even come close to starting what they claim to be teaching.
“The only down side to my taking up running again is all of the “advice” I seem to get from people lately. And it usually comes from people who….(ready!!)…..don’t run!!”
….this part made me really crack up. I am ashamed to say that this is me. I think in my excitement to do something or share what I know about it, I have ended up on the sidelines shouting out suggestions rather than in the race with others. Thank you for once again showing me something about myself in your blog that makes me cringe a bit but is always laced with grace and humor. You’re one of a kind.
Love this 🙂 🙂 you’re on fire girl!
I’m so inspired!! Thank you!!!
My greatest mentors have been those willing to make a “u-turn” and walk with me in my struggles. The most significant and powerful impact being from the Lord Himself who condescended himself to becoming a human being.
Amen! This is excellent writing, really motivating. God bless,