Self-love is not the cure for shame. Amplifying your good qualities is not the antidote to low self esteem. Selectively repeating Bible verses about your worth like a mantra will not release you from the pain and self loathing of your inner world. You can waste a lot of your time fighting this forest fire with your garden hose. Or you can stop looking for the solution in yourself. It isn’t there.
It’s in God alone. Love Him. Love His people. Live for Him. Live for others. I’m not saying that it’s about ignoring your pain or distracting yourself from pursuing healing. But pursuing healing rather than pursuing the Great Physician is futile. Your pain and shame and brokenness will never be fixed and healed in the manner that you think it will or want it to. It won’t.
Pray and seek sincerely to know God and by coming to know HIM you will find that He is the only one who truly knows you inside and out and what He says about you will become law. What He says is final. No further research or affirmations needed. But you must train to hear and know the voice and the word of the Lord.
“‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” – Jesus
Recovered In Christ 
Oh, the “Great Physician” .. 😉
I am loving your constant blog updates lately Layla. Thank you for sharing.
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